[4.0] Deprecate and remove defaultOptions option from useQuery and useLazyQuery

[jerelmiller]

Reference:

apollo-client/src/react/types/types.ts

Line 81 in cfb1ecd

defaultOptions?: Partial<WatchQueryOptions<TVariables, TData>>;

These values are merged with options and the client.watchQuery.defaultOptions, however there seems to be no additional benefit to this option.