Cherry pick "Fix regression of VirtualizedList jumpy header"
Fix regression of VirtualizedList jumpy header (#22025) Summary: Fixes #20956, #21361, #21198, #21468 Keeps the intended outcome of #18105 Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/facebook/react-native/pull/22025 Differential Revision: D13941915 Pulled By: cpojer fbshipit-source-id: 59a0a834ea2d0dd4678e80a82ddaf95cecf87d38