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# 🛤️ The Pursuit | ||
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I've had a lot of luck in my life. I was lucky to have been raised to be | ||
competitive; I was lucky to gravitate towards computing among other engineering | ||
fields right at the time of the software development boom; and I was lucky as a | ||
recent grad to land at a startup that succeeded and made me grow quickly; then I | ||
was lucky to avoid the bubble bursting headwinds and landed a relocation with a | ||
good salary at big tech. | ||
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I also had a great deal of luck to be on the last batch of a state-sponsored | ||
exchange program which put me in contact with different ant interesting people; | ||
I was lucky to live inside a progressive bubble that corrected a lot of bad | ||
tendencies previously ingrained; then I became the luckies of all when I was | ||
introduced to a loving partner that is my ever-shining guiding star. | ||
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Obviously there was a lot of effort involved, herculean effort and commitment. | ||
Long hours, long long hours burning through life fueled by that spirit of | ||
pursuing success. My brain circuitry aligned my passion with the most rewarding | ||
activities capitalism designed for my generation, but making the most of it was | ||
still a bit brutal in retrospect. | ||
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But that too was by chance. I was placed on the empty straight road, with a | ||
perfectly tuned pair of legs, given top performant shoes, and I was raised a | ||
runner. All the privileges possible, short of being born with the trophy already | ||
on the shelf. | ||
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## The State of the Art | ||
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonic_treadmill | ||
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## Moving Forward | ||
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Richard Hamming is credited with a three-pronged attack on diligence: | ||
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1. What are the most important problems in your field? | ||
2. Are you working on one of them? | ||
3. Why not?” | ||
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# Motivation for Duties | ||
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As a functioning adult, one has to keep tabs on a very long list of tasks for | ||
the sake of the endless maintenance of health, relationships, the household, and | ||
society at large. It's taxing enough to keep this whole machinery in order for | ||
one's own benefit; harder still is keeping up with the commitments acquired via | ||
"promises and compromises". | ||
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The situation is easy to picture: a person you care about has a need and you're | ||
the most appropriate person to fulfill that long-term, so you agree to own it. | ||
One new responsibility is born and commitment of best effort is made, adding Yet | ||
Another To-Do™ to your ever-growing pile of infinitely recurring tasks. | ||
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A case study. I favor the "disgusting but quick" over the "straightforward but | ||
boring" tasks, which is why I've taken bathroom & stove cleaning to escape the | ||
ownership of dusting and mopping. Being the owner of a task that _someone_ has | ||
to do isn't so much of a compromise - that task is inherently essential. On the | ||
contrary. Splitting chores is the privilege of a divided burden, so "scrubbing | ||
the toilet" as a task isn't a compromise; it's my ticket to _less chores | ||
overall_. But the "what" is only half the story, the "when" is just as critical: | ||
if I'm comfortable doing one big deep scrub once every X days and my partner in | ||
chores cannot tolerate a gap that large, I **compromise** and commit to the | ||
frequency reasonably requested. Doing it every Y days instead of X days (X>Y) is | ||
a promised responsibility, for the sake of equity and fairness. | ||
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Why is this kind of responsibility so easily left behind? I think it's because | ||
the immediate consequences for the broken promise is upsetting a different | ||
brain. Even if that brain is attached to the love of my life, it is REALLY hard | ||
to make the proper calculation on the importance of that task when you're low in | ||
physical or mental energy, when willpower falters. | ||
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It's all too easy to fall into temptation of skipping the gym because | ||
future-myself will be the one upset (and future-myself is a different person!). | ||
Similarly, it's easy to convince my present self that it's alright to clean this | ||
sink _just one day later_, because someone also-not-me _might_ be upset - but oh | ||
surely they'll be understanding of my current conditions, and doing it every X | ||
days is not so bad in the first place! Subconsciously, the compromise | ||
negotiation is re-litigated with a different outcome. | ||
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Alas, yes it is that bad. That's why the promise was made in the first place. If | ||
it's time to debate a change to the agreement, it can't be an imaginary | ||
impromptu debate. The compromise exists because it's important, and while my | ||
brain brushes off this slipup as not a big deal, it does know deep down how bad | ||
it is and how you are in fact hurting someone you care about. Candid talks are | ||
made necessary, regret ensues, promises to do better are renewed. | ||
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