aptos: upgrade to 4.5.0 (toolchain + libs)

[ali-bahjati]

This PR is modeled on the last change that previously bumped to 3.1.0

This change bumps libraries and toolchain of Aptos to the Aptos CLI v4.5.0 version. The tests are slightly changed to accommodate the recent changes in the coin library that disallows coin operations on unitialized coins (this PR).

The PR is in draft state because aptos/Dockerfile requires a docker hash that I am unable to push myself so assuming this PR looks OK, and someone with permission can do that push, I can fix the PR as well and mark ready.

[evan-gray]

This PR is failing due to two issues.

1. certain transactions during deploy and the NFT tests are failing on client.simulateTransaction. I added commits to bypass this, though I am unsure as to the root cause.
2. aptosClient.getEventsByEventHandle is not returning the expected data, leading to errors like the following

    TypeError: Cannot read properties of undefined (reading 'data')
    const depositTokenId = event.data.id;

I am not familiar enough with the Aptos changes to immediately identify what needs to be changed here.

Next steps might be to compare https://explorer.aptoslabs.com/?network=local between main and this PR after a run of the tests. I was able to run tilt up -- --aptos --manual in the root followed by npm test -- aptos in sdk/js