We live in a world in which violence has become more and more accepted as the norm. It’s all around us. From wars between nations to crime on the street, and even imposing on our everyday existence, violence manifests itself both explicitly and implicitly. Yet for many people, the very idea of violence seems foreign. They are not involved in physical confrontations or abuses, and thus they believe that violence is not present. But the reality is that whenever we become disconnected from our compassionate nature, whenever our hearts are not devoid of hatred in all of its forms, we have a tendency to act in ways that can cause pain for everyone in our lives, including ourselves.
Nonviolence, then, does not refer to the mere absence of physical harm. It is a way of life that takes its lead from a compassionate and connected heart, and can guide us toward a more complete and happy way of being. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “Nonviolence is not a garment to be put on and off at will. Its seat is in the heart, and it must be an inseparable part of our very being.” It is a practice rooted in understanding, in living honestly, and in acting empathically with all beings. Of course this starts with the self. We must first understand and act empathically towards ourselves in order to impact the world in wonderful and compassionate ways. This means cultivating nonviolence in every action and being present to our own needs and feelings in each and every moment.
Nonviolent Communication - wikipedia
NVC aims to support change on three interconnected levels: within self, between others, and within groups and social systems. NVC is taught as a process of interpersonal communication designed to improve compassionate connection to others. Practitioners also emphasize that it can have many beneficial "side effects" as a spiritual practice, as a set of values, as parenting best practices, as a tool for social change, as a mediation tool, as an educational orientation, and as a worldview.
- Marshall Rosenberg
- Introductory Resources
- Assumptions and Intentions
- The Book
- NVC Model
- Feelings Inventory
- Human Needs and Human-scale Development
- Resources
- Jackal and Giraffe Language
- Other
- Center for Non-Violent Communication
- Meet Marshall Rosenberg
Growing up in a turbulent Detroit neighborhood, Dr. Rosenberg developed a keen interest in new forms of communication that would provide peaceful alternatives to the violence he encountered. His interest led to a doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Wisconsin in 1961, where he studied under Carl Rogers. His subsequent life experience and study of comparative religion motivated him to develop the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process.
Dr. Rosenberg first used the NVC process in federally funded school integration projects to provide mediation and communication skills training during the 1960s. The Center for Nonviolent Communication, which he founded in 1984, now has hundreds of certified NVC trainers and supporters teaching NVC in more than 35 countries around the globe.
- Marhsall Rosenberg - wikipedia
- The Language of Nonviolence - Interview
- An Introduction to Nonviolent Communicationsm (NNVVCC) (pdf)
- A Quick Tutorial of Marshall Rosenbergs Compassionate Communication - The Essentials of Compassionate Communication
- Basics of Nonviolent Communication
Learning NVC is a process similar to learning a new language or skill: step-by-step learning coupled with ample time for practice lead to growing mastery. While it takes time to develop fluency, any knowledge of a new language makes it more likely that communication can take place. In addition, because NVC invites us to a level of vulnerability and caring that often are not familiar or habitual, full integration of the consciousness underlying this language is likely to require changes in our internal connection to ourselves, and healing of past pain.
- Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC - BayNVC - Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
- All human beings share the same needs
- All actions are attempts to meet needs
- Feelings point to needs being met or unmet
- The most direct path to peace is through self-connection
- Choice is internal
- All human beings have the capacity for compassion
- Human beings enjoy giving
- Human beings meet needs through interdependent relationships
- Our world offers abundant resources for meeting needs
- Human beings change
- Self-compassion
- Expressing from the heart
- Receiving with compassion
- Prioritizing connection
- Beyond “right” and “wrong”
- Taking responsibility for our feelings
- Taking responsibility for our actions
- Living in peace with unmet needs
- Increasing capacity for meeting needs
- Increasing capacity for meeting the present moment
- Caring fully for everyone’s needs
- Increasing capacity for needs-based sharing of resources
- Protective use of force
- Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life - goodreads
In this internationally acclaimed text, Marshall Rosenberg offers insightful stories, anecdotes, practical exercises and role-plays that will dramatically change your approach to communication for the better. Discover how the language you use can strengthen your relationships, build trust, prevent conflicts and heal pain. Revolutionary, yet simple, NVC offers you the most effective tools to reduce violence and create peace in your life—one interaction at a time.
- Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships - amazon
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. It contains nothing new; all that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries. The intent is to remind us about what we already know—about how we humans were meant to relate to one another—and to assist us in living in a way that concretely manifests this knowledge.
NVC guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and hear others. Instead of habitual, automatic reactions, our words become conscious responses based firmly on awareness of what we are perceiving, feeling, and wanting. We are led to express ourselves with honesty and clarity, while simultaneously paying others a respectful and empathic attention. In any exchange, we come to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. NVC trains us to observe carefully, and to be able to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting us. We learn to identify and clearly articulate what we are concretely wanting in any given situation. The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a simple method for clear, empathic communication consisting of four steps: Stating observations, then feelings, then needs, then requests. NVC aims to find a way for all present to get what really matters to them without the use of guilt, humiliation, shame. It is useful for resolving conflicts, connecting with others, and living in a way that is conscious, present, and attuned to the genuine, living needs of yourself and others
State the observations that are leading you to feel the need to say something. These should be purely factual observations, with no component of judgment or evaluation.
State the feeling that the observation is triggering in you. Or, guess what the other person is feeling, and ask. Naming the emotion, without moral judgment, enables you to connect in a spirit of mutual respect and cooperation. Perform this step with the aim of accurately identifying the feeling that you or the other person are experiencing in that moment, not with the aim of shaming them for their feeling or otherwise trying to prevent them from feeling as they do.
State the need that is the cause of that feeling. Or, guess the need that caused the feeling in the other person, and ask. When our needs are met, we have happy, positive feelings; when they are not met, we have negative feelings. By tuning into the feeling, you can often find the underlying need. Stating the need, without morally judging it, gives you both clarity about what is alive in you or the other person in that moment.
Make a concrete request for action to meet the need just identified. Ask clearly and specifically for what you want right now, rather than hinting or stating only what you don't want.
- AFFECTIONATE: compassionate, friendly, loving, open hearted, sympathetic, tender, warm
- ENGAGED: absorbed, alert, curious, engrossed, enchanted, entranced, fascinated, interested, intrigued, involved, spellbound, stimulated
- HOPEFUL: expectant, encouraged, optimistic
- CONFIDENT: empowered, open, proud, safe, secure
- EXCITED: amazed, animated, ardent, aroused, astonished, dazzled, eager, energetic, enthusiastic, giddy, invigorated, lively, passionate, surprised, vibrant
- GRATEFUL: appreciative, moved, thankful, touched
- INSPIRED: amazed, awed, wonder
- JOYFUL: amused, delighted, glad, happy, jubilant, pleased, tickled
- EXHILARATED: blissful, ecstatic, elated, enthralled, exuberant, radiant, rapturous, thrilled
- PEACEFUL: calm, clear headed, comfortable, centered, content, equanimous, fulfilled, mellow, quiet, relaxed, relieved, satisfied, serene, still, tranquil, trusting
- REFRESHED: enlivened, rejuvenated, renewed, rested, restored, revived
- AFRAID: apprehensive, dread, foreboding, frightened, mistrustful, panicked, petrified, scared, suspicious, terrified, wary, worried
- ANNOYED: aggravated, dismayed, disgruntled, displeased, exasperated, frustrated, impatient, irritated, irked
- ANGRY: enraged, furious, incensed, indignant, irate, livid, outraged, resentful
- AVERSION: animosity, appalled, contempt, disgusted, dislike, hate, horrified, hostile, repulsed
- CONFUSED: ambivalent, baffled, bewildered, dazed, hesitant, lost, mystified, perplexed, puzzled, torn
- DISCONNECTED: alienated, aloof, apathetic, bored, cold, detached, distant, distracted, indifferent, numb, removed, uninterested, withdrawn
- DISQUIET: agitated, alarmed, discombobulated, disconcerted, disturbed, perturbed, rattled, restless, shocked, startled, surprised, troubled, turbulent, turmoil, uncomfortable, uneasy, unnerved, unsettled, upset
- EMBARRASSED: ashamed, chagrined, flustered, guilty, mortified, self-conscious
- FATIGUE: beat, burnt out, depleted, exhausted, lethargic, listless, sleepy, tired, weary, worn out
- PAIN: agony, anguished, bereaved, devastated, grief, heartbroken, hurt, lonely, miserable, regretful, remorseful
- SAD: depressed, dejected, despair, despondent, disappointed, discouraged, disheartened, forlorn, gloomy, heavy hearted, hopeless, melancholy, unhappy, wretched
- TENSE: anxious, cranky, distressed, distraught, edgy, fidgety, frazzled, irritable, jittery, nervous, overwhelmed, restless, stressed out
- VULNERABLE: fragile, guarded, helpless, insecure, leery, reserved, sensitive, shaky
- YEARNING: envious, jealous, longing, nostalgic, pining, wistful
- Universal Human Needs
- cnvc - Needs Inventory
- Max-Neef Model of Human-Scale Development - p2pfoundation wiki
Max-Neef classifies the fundamental human needs as: subsistence, protection, affection, understanding, participation, recreation (in the sense of leisure, time to reflect, or idleness), creation, identity and freedom. Needs are also defined according to the existential categories of being, having, doing and interacting, and from these dimensions, a 36 cell matrix is developed which can be filled with examples of satisfiers for those needs.
| Fundamental Human Needs | Being (qualities) | Having (things) | Doing (actions) | Interacting (settings) |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Subsistence | physical and mental health | food, shelter work | feed, clothe, rest, work | living environment, social setting |
| Protection | care, adaptability, autonomy | social security, health systems, work | co-operate, plan, take care of, help | social environment, dwelling |
| Affection | respect, sense of humour, generosity, sensuality | friendships, family, relationships with nature | share, take care of, make love, express emotions | privacy, intimate spaces of togetherness |
| Understanding | critical capacity, curiosity, intuition | literature, teachers, policies | educational | analyse, study, meditate, investigate |
| Participation | receptiveness, dedication, sense of humour | responsibilities, duties, work, rights | cooperate, dissent, express opinions | associations, parties, churches, neighbourhoods |
| Leisure | imagination, tranquillity, spontaneity | games, parties, peace of mind | day-dream, remember, relax, have fun | landscapes, intimate spaces, places to be alone |
| Creation | imagination, boldness, inventiveness, curiosity | abilities, skills, work, techniques | invent, build, design, work, compose, interpret | spaces for expression, workshops, audiences |
| Identity | sense of belonging, self-esteem, consistency | language, religions, work, customs, values, norms | get to know oneself, grow, commit oneself | places one |
| Freedom | autonomy, passion, self-esteem, open-mindedness | equal rights | dissent, choose, run risks, develop awareness | anywhere |
- NVC Wiki - a wiki serving the global Nonviolent Communication (NVC) network.
- NonviolentCommunication.com
- r/NVC - A subreddit about Nonviolent Communication.
- Free Non-Violent Communication Resources
- NVC-UK - Free Resources
- Donal Gannon - NVC MATERIALS
- Houston NVC - Downloads
- Gainsville NVC - Tools
- Street Giraffe - Experiments with Truth
- Marshall Rosenberg's NVC Quotes
- Strategy Cards - What do you 'really' need? This is probably one of the most important questions asked by coaches, therapists, mediators and anyone who is interested in the well-being of others.
- Radical Compassion - Integrating Nonviolent Communication
- The Nonviolent Communicator: an NVC Tool - An online tool to help you create a communication that honors the NVC structure, and helps you identify the emotions you are feeling. Based on the The 4-Part Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Process model developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.
- baynvc - Free worksheets and journalling guides
- Open Communication is dedicated to bringing Nonviolent CommunicationSM and empathy skills to Maine and the surrounding region.
- COURAGEOUS COMMUNICATION by Peggy Smith, CNVC certified NVC Trainer - a Nonviolent Communicaton Curriculum for the Maine Coastal Regional Reentry Center
- Transcript of 2-Day Advanced Intensive NVC: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D
The following is a slightly edited transcript of a training Marshall Rosenberg led on Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA, October 20-21, 2000. We are grateful to Lin Rose for transcribing this training. Please note that Marshall sometimes uses Giraffe and Jackal as metaphors for Nonviolent Communication and life-alienated thinking and speaking, respectively.
- Nonviolent Communication - Salzburg, Austria - Nonviolent Communication books. Feelings and needs based communication.
- NVC Informational Handouts
- Work Collaboratively - Learning Resources
- NVC Academy
- Resource Library East Van Compassionate Communication Community
- Compassion Course Online - COURSE STARTS WEDNESDAY JUNE 24
- Fundamentals of Compassionate Communication (Online)
- Essentials of Nonviolent Communication - Saturday, May 16, 2020
- Upcoming NVC Trainings - cnvc
- NVC Practice Groups - Meetup - Find out what's happening in NVC practice group Meetup groups around the world and start meeting up with the ones near you.
- Taste of Compassionate Leadership
On the fourth Saturday of most months, please join us for a 2-hour session and enjoy a taste of living within our empathic community, as well as a brief training and practice with our trainers. You will learn concrete skills and steps for practicing compassion and leadership in your life.
- NVC Mailing Lists
- @NVCPractice - NVC online events, videos and links
This page is about NVC things people can do online or by phone.
- NWCompass Virtual/Remote Trainings
- Basics of NVC - ONLINE (Starter or Refresher)
- The Exercise – Shifting Toward Compassion By Thom Bond
Even though this is an online exercise, you still need a pen or pencil and a piece of paper with a blank side. I created this exercise so people can have what I call a "Shift". By that I mean experience a "shift" in what you are thinking about and a shift in how you feel. To understand "shift," I have found it helpful to imagine a line like the one below labeled "Connection Continuum". On one end is rage, disconnect and violence... on the other is compassion, connection and peace. In any given moment we are all somewhere on this line (many or most of us in the middle somewhere).
- Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook 2nd Edition
Learning Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has often been equated with learning a whole new language. The NVC Companion Workbook helps you put these powerful, effective communication skills into practice with chapter-by-chapter study of Rosenberg's cornerstone text,NVC: A Language of Life.
- Basics of Nonviolent Communication - Marshall Rosenberg - 3 hours - 22 shorts)
presentation from a 1 day Introductory Workshop in San Francisco, CA in April, 2000
- Nonviolent Communication Training Sessions 1-9 - Marshall Rosenberg - 9 hours - Audio Playlist
- Session #1 Introduction — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #2 How we communicate with ourselves — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #3 The 4 Part Model — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #4 The Dynamics of Empathy — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #5 Intimate Relationships — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #6 Authority: Respect vs Fear — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #7 The Power of Empathy — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #8 Social Change — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- Session #9 Sincere Gratitude — Transcript with References — Audio Only
- NonViolent Compassionate Communication A Language of Life Marshall Rosenberg AUDIOBOOK
- Media - NVCWiki
- Marshall ROSENBERG and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) (606 videos) Youtube Playlist
- Marshall Rosenberg - Making Life Wonderful 1/4 - Nonviolent Communication NVC
- Marshall Rosenberg - Making Life Wonderful 2/4 - Nonviolent Communication NVC
- Marshall Rosenberg - Making Life Wonderful 3/4 - Nonviolent Communication NVC
- Marshall Rosenberg - Making Life Wonderful 4/4 - Nonviolent Communication NVC
- Nonviolent Communication NVC International Intensive Training I.I.T. by original trainer Marshall Rosenberg from Pierre PIRONT on July 8, 2017
- Popular Marshall Rosenberg & Nonviolent Communication videos (187 videos) Youtube Playlist
- NVC Academy
- Connecting Across Differences - itunes
Connecting Across Differences is a podcast by Dian Killian, Ph.D. of Work Collaboratively about having greater empathy for yourself and others, and how to hear others more deeply and make sure that you’ve been heard. Episodes are available on iTunes and you can also find a complete list here.
- Episode 1: Making Observations
In the first episode, Dian focuses on key principles from her book, Urban Empathy, that can make a difference for you in your life and in your relationships. Urban Empathy is a book of illustrated actual verbatim stories set in New York City that show how outcomes can be radically different when we learn to listen deeply to others.
- Episode 2: The Four Steps of Collaborative (Nonviolent) Communication
- Observation – exactly what you heard the person say or what you saw them do
- Feelings – noticing what you’re feeling or what the other person is feeling, free of judgment.
- Needs – noticing what your needs are and what the other person’s needs are, free of strategy.
- Requests–connection requests (checking in) and/or strategy requests that are clear/concrete, positive, doable and free of demand
- Episode 3: Practicing Self Empathy
- Episode 4: Making Requests
- Episode 5: Connection Requests
- Episode 6: Strategy Requests
- Episode 1: Making Observations
- The Art of NVC
This Podcast is dedicated to sharing, learning, and discovering the fundamentals of Nonviolent Communication based on what I have learned from Marshall Rosenberg's classic book "Nonviolent Communication" and many of his videos. It is my intention to share what I have learned and to help those who truly want to become better communicators to avoid some of the common mistakes I see over and over when people attempt to practice NVC. It is truly an amazingly powerful way of speaking and being and I am excited to go on this journey with you.
- NVCPractice - This is an archive of NVC-influenced conversations.
- Compassionate Communication
- An Introduction to Compassionate Communication
This opening episode will give listeners an introduction to the powerful tools of Compassionate Communication. Joining Scott will be some of his friends and clients, sharing their stories of how these tools have transformed their lives. Each individual's success story will be connected to at least one specific principle of Compassionate Communication (aka: Nonviolent Communication). Joining Scott will be Katrina Vaillaincourt, a single mother who has used these tools to support her relationships with her ex-husband and her 11-year-old son. Visit www.LoveCoachScott.com for free worksheets.
- An Introduction to Compassionate Communication
- PEACE TALKS: NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION WITH MARSHALL ROSENBERG (KUNM Airdate: 2/24/06)
This time on Peace Talks, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with Marshall Rosenberg. NVC is a verbal technology for exchanging information and resolving differences peacefully. Marshall Rosenberg, who founded the NVC technique is captured before a live Albuquerque audience talking about how this communication style helps to resolve conflict. He also helps members of the studio audience develop solutions to conflict scenarios using the principles of Nonviolent Communication. Co hosts: Paul Ingles and Suzanne Kryder.
- cnvc.org - Articles
- The scientifically proven, step-by-step guide to having a breakthrough conversation across party lines
- Collaborative Communication & Email: Best Practices (or How Not to Drive Your Colleagues Entirely Crazy)
- NVC Research - NVC Global
- Recent papers in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) - academia.edu
- Archive CNVC Research
- Articles on Social Change and Nonviolent Activism
- What is the impact of the application of the Nonviolent communication model on the development of empathy? Overview of research and outcomes. MSc in Psychotherapy Studies
- An exploratory study: Non-violent communication strategies for secondary teachers using a Quality Learning Circle approach Lee Hooper
- The value of openness in e-relationships: Using Nonviolent Communication to guide online coaching and mentoring.
- SUMMATIVE EVALUATION OF A WORKSHOP IN COLLABORATIVE COMMUNICATION
- Case Study of Tekoa Institute: Illustration of Nonviolent Communication Training’s Effect on Conflict Resolution
- Freedom Project: Nonviolent Communication and Mindfulness Training in Prison
- DEVELOPING NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION:AN INTEGRAL APPROACHAN INTEGRAL APPROACH, Simon R. Beck
- A step toward violence prevention: "Non-Violent Communication" as part of a college curriculum Susan M Blake
- Assessing the Impact of Nonviolent Communication - An Outcome Evaluation, Molly Burleson, Monique Martin, Rashunda Lewis
- Total Honesty/Total Heart: Fostering empathy development and conflict resolution skills. A violence prevention strategy Marion Little BA Linguistics, University of Victoria, 2002
- Compassionate Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.
At an early age, most of us were taught to speak and think Jackal. This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately it provokes defensiveness, resistance and counterattack. Giraffe bids us to speak from the heart, to talk about what is going on for us - without judging others. In this idiom, you give people an opportunity to say yes, although you respect no for an answer. Giraffe is a language of requests; Jackal is a language of demands.
- Giraffe Language: Changing Learned Communication Patterns
Giraffe Language is interpersonal communication divided into two fundamental genres: “jackal” and “giraffe.” From infancy our culture teaches us to speak “jackal,” a language of demands that provoke defensiveness, resistance and counterattack. “giraffe,” on the other hand, is the language of requests that allows us to communicate with others in respectful, compassionate ways. Why giraffe? Because giraffes have the largest hearts of all land animals (up to 40 lbs!). Jackals, due to their low proximity to the ground, tend to see just what’s under their noses. Jackal language symbolizes short-sighted, self-protecting, limited communication.
- Non-violent communication: are you a jackal or a giraffe?
I’ve recently watched a quite lengthy but fun presentation by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg on non-violent communication. I highly recommend it: that man’s a stand-up comedian. Rosenberg coined the terms giraffe and jackal language in interpersonal communication, where the former is the language of the heart, the giraffe being the animal with the largest heart (up to 40 lbs), while the latter is a language of criticism and demands that only triggers counterattack and defensiveness. He describes an easy six-step approach to having productive communication as a giraffe in conflictual situations that I’ll try to do justice to.
- “GIRAFFE LANGUAGE” AND “JACKAL LANGUAGE”: A STUDY OF TWO OPPOSITE COMMUNICATION RITUALS - Jurnal Komunikasi Malaysian Journal of Communication
This paper refers to the “giraffe language” and “jackal language”, which allude to the “non-violent communication” concept according to Marshall B. Rosenberg. The two languages being discussed describe two different types of rhetoric and, at the same time, two opposite communication/social rituals used by people in their everyday life and also in the mass media, and omnipresent in the advertisement. The paper tries to draw attention that contemporary media is based on “jackal language” (often strongly rooted in our culture and mentality) being a language of violence, blocking empathy and stimulating conflicts and tension in interpersonal communication and relationships). Unfortunately media makes a tremendous impact on the customers (especially on young people).This paper aims to propagate and encourage using the “giraffe language” described as the language of love, understanding and clemency. The ‘giraffe language’ encourages constructive, matter-of-fact and unbiased communication. A long giraffe’s neck became its symbol - a metaphor of perfect (objectivity) communication.
- Learning to speak Giraffe - Nonviolent Communication in action
- NVC0312 – NVC: A Language of Life
- NVC0302 – Life-Enriching Education
- NVC0316 – Teaching Children Compassionately
- NVC144R – Raising Children Compassionately
- NVC0311 – Getting Past the Pain Between US
- NVC0503 – Speak Peace in a World of Conflict
- NVC0507 – The Surprising Purpose of Anger
- NVC0505 – Being Me Loving You
- NVC0310 – The Heart of Social Change
- NVC0315 – We Can Work It Out
- NVC0408 – Practical Spirituality
- NVC101 – A Model for NVC
- NVC102 – Duck Tales and Jackal Taming Hints
- NVC129 – Marshall Live!: 3 Workshops on NVC
- NVC0401 – Live Compassionately Songbook
- NVC143 – Compassionate Communication Songbook
- NVC0319 – Como Criar a Nuestros Hijos de Manera Compasiva
- NVC159 – Las Bases Espirituales de la CNV
- NVC0604 – Communicacion No Violenta
- NVC108 – Connecting Compassionately (audio tapes)
- NVC109 – Intro to a Model for NVC (audio tapes)
- NVC110 – Marshall's Music 1 (audio tapes)
- NVC111 – Marshall's Music 2 (audio tapes)
- NVC135 – Expressing and Receiving Anger Compassionately (audio tapes)
- NVC141 – NVC for Educators (audio tapes)
- NVC142 – A Heart to Heart Talk (audio tapes)
- NVC146 – Giraffe Fuel for Life (audio CD)
- NVC147 – Needs And Empathy (audio CD)
- NVC148 – Intimate Relationships (audio CD)
- NVC149 – Live Compassionately (audio CD)
- NVC0308 – Creating a Life-Serving System Within Oneself (audio CD)
- NVC0309 – Experiencing Needs as a Gift (audio CD)
- NVC0306 – Speaking Peace (audio CD)
- NVC0402 – NVC: Create Your Life, Relationships and World in Harmony ... (audio CD)
- NVC0603 – NVC Training Course (audio CD)
- NVC0510 – The Power We Have to Create the World of Our Choosing (audio CD)
- NVC132/NVC140 – NVC: A Language of the Heart (video tape)
- NVC117/NVC136 – Resolving Conflicts with Children and Adults (video tape)
- NVC157/NVC158 – Basics of NVC (video tape)
- NVC152/NVC153 – Making Life Wonderful (video tape)
- NVC0404 – Basics of NVC (DVD)
- NVC0511 – Making Life Wonderful (DVD)
- NVC0300 – Quick Cards: Process of NVC, Basics Needs, Feelings
(from certified trainer agreement)
- Emotional Competency - Study Guide
Emotional competency is an important skill that can provide several benefits throughout many aspects of your life. It can increase the satisfaction you have with relationships while it increases your gratification and contentment with the many simple events in your life. It can give you greater insight and help you better understand the motives and actions of yourself and others.
You can free yourself from anger, hate, resentment, vengeance, and other destructive emotions that cause hurt and pain. You can feel relief and enjoy greater peace-of-mind, autonomy, intimacy, dignity, competence, and wisdom as you engage more deeply with others. Increasing your tolerance and compassion can lead to an authentic optimism and a well-founded confidence, based on your better understanding and interpretation of what-is.
- Atlas of Emotions
- Empathy Training Design Project - Project Development and Work Website
Our Challenge: How might we design and build a Culture of Empathy training?
- Miki Kasthan - The Inseparability of Psychological and Social Transformation
We talk about how economic and cultural systems inform our psychology, why none of us can know what ‘human nature’ is, the necessity of communities of practice for those who seek to transform their consciousness, how to practice full spectrum nonviolence, the unsettling power of moral authority, and the central significance of connecting with and expressing our biological needs.
- Ep. 37 Miki Kashtan on the three shifts needed for self-managing organisations to thrive
Miki Kashtan is an author, international teacher and practitioner of Nonviolent Communication. In this conversation we talk about the three different places shifts need to occur in order for a self-managing human system to thrive. She also shares the five core systems we need to redesign in our organisations as well as the mindset shifts and dialogue skills we need to develop in order to collaborate on a deeper, more purposeful level.
- The Fearless Heart: Inspiration and tools for creating the future we want
- Say What You Mean by Oren Jay Sofer
How to speak and listen more effectively--to communicate mindfully and improve all relationships--based on the author's unique synthesis of mindfulness practice combined with the principles of Nonviolent Communication.
- Oren Jay Sofer - Youtube Channel
- Ep. 37: Oren Jay Sofer — How to Improve Your Relationships with Better Communication
Do you ever feel like you and someone else—a romantic partner, family member, friend, co-worker, or someone else—just aren't hearing each other? Our relationships will never be better than the quality of our communication. My guest this week is Oren Jay Sofer, who is passionate about helping people to improve their communication abilities through what he describes as a mindful approach to Nonviolent Communication.
- Ep. 86 - Oren Jay Sofer - Metta Hour with Sharon Salzberg
Oren Jay Sofer is a member of the Spirit Rock Teacher’s Council, a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for healing trauma. His first book, “Say What You Mean” comes out in December 2018. In this conversation, Sharon and Oren discuss how Oren came to the path of meditation practice, and his time spent in the East. They also discuss the many nuances of effective communication both related to mindfulness practice, somatic healing, and the application of non-violent communication. The conversation closes with Oren leading a short guided meditation. For more information, visit orenjaysofer.com.
- A Generous-Hearted Life - Alan Wheatley profiles Richard Layard, who believes the basic purpose of economics is the maximization of happiness and well-being
as Layard sees it, along the way economics partly lost sight of this original purpose. The maximization of utility, or happiness, became conflated with the maximization of consumption and then with income and GDP. Layard’s contribution, along with that of other economists, including Andrew Oswald of Warwick University, is to have helped reassert the importance of factors other than income in determining happiness.
“To understand how the economy actually affects our well-being, we have to use psychology as well as economics,” was how Layard put it in one of a trio of lectures he gave on the topic at the LSE in 2003. GDP, he added, was a “hopeless measure of welfare.” Those lectures were the germ of a best-selling book published in 2005, Happiness: Lessons from a New Science, in which he argued that seven major factors affect how happy we are, defined as enjoying life and feeling wonderful: our family relationships, financial situation, work, community and friends, health, personal freedom, and personal values.
- 'happiness tsar', Richard Layard, thinks he knows why we're all so miserable
Layard is quietly effecting a revolution in this miserable, materialistic, overworked country. A Labour peer since 2000, he has been able to influence first Blair's administration and then Brown's into making his happiness agenda government policy. His calls for cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), for school lessons in emotional intelligence, and other allegedly happiness-causing reforms have been greeted warmly by education secretary Ed Balls, health secretary Alan Johnson, the health guideline-setting National Institute for Clinical Excellence and by local authorities up and down the country. Layard is founder director of the Centre for Economic Performance at the London School of Economics, and runs its Well-Being programme. He speaks cheerfully of how the word "well-being" now figures in job titles at government departments, how the new government policy includes commitments to well-being, how the Office for National Statistics is developing the measurement of well-being, how Ed Balls's Social and Emotional Aspects of Learning programme is devoted to making secondary school children focused on well-being. For Layard, you see, well-being is just another way of saying happiness.
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Another theorist in this arena, Sharon Strand Ellison, the director of the Institute for Powerful Non-Defensive Communication (NDC), expresses some of the same ideas as Marshall. Ellison’s view is that most of our current communication structure reinforces prejudice and stereotypes and assumes that “the other” in any communication is the enemy. As she started doing research into the definitions of some basic communication terms, she discovered that there are a lot of war analogies used. Ms. Ellison shows that people make rampant use of predications, statements, and questions to attack, blame, sabotage, and justify in our communications with others.
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