perf: Optimize native filters and cross filters

[kgabryje]

SUMMARY

This PR supersedes #30958.
Related to PRs: #31240, #31241, #31242, #31244.

Optimizes utils and components related to native filters and cross filters. Many util functions, such as useSelectChartTabParents or getCrossFilterIndicator were suboptimal, running some operations unnecessarily, and were being called from components redundantly. This PR implements memoization in filter bar components, improves Redux selectors and optimizes the util functions.

BEFORE/AFTER SCREENSHOTS OR ANIMATED GIF

For detailed perf improvement results, see the details in PR #30958

TESTING INSTRUCTIONS

No functional changes - the dashboard, native filters, cross filters, chart actions, etc. should work like before

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

• Has associated issue:
• Required feature flags:
• Changes UI
• Includes DB Migration (follow approval process in SIP-59)
  • Migration is atomic, supports rollback & is backwards-compatible
  • Confirm DB migration upgrade and downgrade tested
  • Runtime estimates and downtime expectations provided
• Introduces new feature or API
• Removes existing feature or API